“Kapag galit ako sa isang tao, pinararamdam ko”, “Nagpapakatotoo lang ako”, “Hindi ako plastik”, “Totoo akong tao”. Madalas kong marining/mabasa ang mga pananalitang ito mula sa ibang blogger kapag sila’y may nakaka-samaan ng loob dito sa blogosphere. Para sa mga blogger na ganito ang pananaw walang masama kung murahin nila o magbitiw sila ng mga masakit na pananalita laban sa mga taong kagalit nila. Kaya daw nila yon ginagawa dahil “nagpapakatotoo” sila sa tunay nilang nararamdaman. Ang pagiging totoo ba’y sapat na dahilan upang makasakit ng kapwa?
Para sa akin, ang makasakit ka ng ibang tao kahit sa pamamagitan lamang ng pananalita ay hindi tama. Okay, maaring nauna siya. May nasabi siyang hindi kanais-nais na kinagalit mo. But you have choices. 1) restrain your anger or 2) retaliate. Unfortunately, some of us seem to equate choice number 2 to “pagpapakatotoo”. Without knowing it, “pagpapakatotoo” becomes an excuse for being rude and disrespectful. Justifying a wrong-doing by trying to appear virtuous.
If your definition of “pagpapakatotoo” (being genuine, not fake) is unrestrained expression of anger then I suggest a carefully look at your values. Perhaps, a few sessions in anger management may help too. Or, simply think of the times you’ve done something wrong that made your parents angry. I'm sure you'ld rather have them forgive you, than see them “nagpapakatotoo”, do you?
Anger can be restrained or vented freely. Free-will means you're free to do whatever you want. But if you choose to do something negative, you must be mature enough to admit to it and not rationalize the action using an excuse that you're doing it out of virtue. Better yet learn to control your anger and be civil to everyone including those who caused you anger in the first place.You don't have to act fake, plastic or sarcastic towards people you detest. All it means is that you avoid being rude and disrespectful. Actually, it's not difficult. If you see a comment that annoyed you, don't reply immediately. Sleep on it first. The following day or days, when most of the anger would have dissipated and you're less emotional, any comment you write would then be more logical and constructive.
Peace and goodwill po sa inyong lahat. Susunod na Lunes, Pasko na.
i like this post. thought provoking... i havent encountered any fighting bloggers, but then your post is not really exclusive to online relationships. in fact, mas magandang alalahanin ito para mga nakakasalamuha natin sa araw-araw.
ReplyDeletekumusta ka uro ! tama ang mga sinulat mo. sana mabasa ito ng mga "nagpapakatotoo" at maisip nila ang epekto ng kanilang "pagpapakatotoo" *^_^*. maligayang pasko sa iyo at sa iyong pamilya!
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I agree with you Ka Uro. There is a very fine line between "pagpapakatotoo" at pagiging "bastos". Hindi kailangang maging bastos (rude) para magpakatotoo. It's a lousy excuse.
ReplyDeleteGayun pa man, nais sana kitang batiin, sampu ng iyong pamilya, ng MALIGAYANG PASKO AT MANIGONG BAGONG TAON!!!
tama ka KU, all they're using is straw man justification. what happened to ethics and delikadesa? siguro kulang lang sa pansin. merry christmas!!! - KE
ReplyDeleteim back and i like this post!
ReplyDeleteika nga ni mang kd, me tama ka sa sinasabi mo. Dati, yan ang palusot ko, "nagpapakatotoo lang" pero dahil nagma-matured na "daw" ako, mas pinipili ko ang manahimik nalang!
wala naman mangyayari kung sasakyan mo pa ang pag-iingay! d ba?
Happy christmas senyo jan!
people love to make excuses just to prove themselves that they are right. at yung 'pagpapakatotoo' ay isang excuse nila para maging bastos. masakit ang katotohanan, pero di naman na nila kailangang ipagdiinan pa.
ReplyDeleteYour right KaUro, galing mo talaga. People tend to explode when touched by a remarkable hands or mouth and this explosion truly affects all negatively. We need a virtue of self control to prevent that. God Bless, Dboy
ReplyDeleteswak na swak KU! mas malalim ang taga ng salitang binitiwan ng matalim na dila kaya dapat konting pasensya at hinahon bago magsalita.
ReplyDeletetotoo ang mga sinabi mo kuya...di na kailangang magpakatotoo pa kung lahat naman ay nakukuha sa good approach...
ReplyDeleteWhat a nice post and I agree with you.
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas!!
TUMPAK!!! They're faking it! lumalabas tlga ang masamang ugali nila! nyahahah!
ReplyDeleteVery nice post KU and you said it well...Mahirap pag ang pride ang pinaiiral walang magpakumbaba..(hirap naman nitong tagalog)
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all!
Hello,
ReplyDeleteI'm a fan ^_^
Sa tingin ko ang problema ay mas madaming batang nakatira online. At kung hindi man ganon, madaming immature na tao. Just my two cents. Ilang oras na lang... Merry Christmas!
... true indeed KU ^_^
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas and a Happy New Year sa buong family mo...
Godbless!
Good suggestions Ka Uro..
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas to you and your family.
Merry Christmas po, Ka Uro- Pinagpapawisan ba kayo dian? Medyo ok lang dito, maaligamgam 24C, humidity is 64% / - for tomorrow it will be raining- accdg to the weatherman on TV.
ReplyDeleteI wish you and your family and loved ones a very wonderful holiday and may the new year be full of good health, abundance, peace and happiness.
Kung pikon ka at kakapiranggot ang pasensya wag ka na lang mag blog o kaya tanggalan mo ng comment box yung blog mo or wag ka na lang mag-ikot para di ka na nila puntahan or better itago mo yung blog mo...hahaha!
ReplyDeleteMerry Christmas KU!
Tama ka Ka Uro. You do not have to be rude. Just control the anger and keep quiet. Don't pretend to be nicey nicey either or as if nothing happened, plastic din yan. Be civil and be silent. Silence is best.
ReplyDeletevery well said, or well written!
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year!!!