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Monday, December 18, 2006

Pagiging Totoo - When it becomes an Excuse, not a Virtue

Kapag galit ako sa isang tao, pinararamdam ko”, “Nagpapakatotoo lang ako”, “Hindi ako plastik”, “Totoo akong tao”. Madalas kong marining/mabasa ang mga pananalitang ito mula sa ibang blogger kapag sila’y may nakaka-samaan ng loob dito sa blogosphere. Para sa mga blogger na ganito ang pananaw walang masama kung murahin nila o magbitiw sila ng mga masakit na pananalita laban sa mga taong kagalit nila. Kaya daw nila yon ginagawa dahil “nagpapakatotoo” sila sa tunay nilang nararamdaman. Ang pagiging totoo ba’y sapat na dahilan upang makasakit ng kapwa?

Para sa akin, ang makasakit ka ng ibang tao kahit sa pamamagitan lamang ng pananalita ay hindi tama. Okay, maaring nauna siya. May nasabi siyang hindi kanais-nais na kinagalit mo. But you have choices. 1) restrain your anger or 2) retaliate. Unfortunately, some of us seem to equate choice number 2 to “pagpapakatotoo”. Without knowing it, “pagpapakatotoo” becomes an excuse for being rude and disrespectful. Justifying a wrong-doing by trying to appear virtuous.

If your definition of “pagpapakatotoo” (being genuine, not fake) is unrestrained expression of anger then I suggest a carefully look at your values. Perhaps, a few sessions in anger management may help too. Or, simply think of the times you’ve done something wrong that made your parents angry. I'm sure you'ld rather have them forgive you, than see them “nagpapakatotoo”, do you?

Anger can be restrained or vented freely. Free-will means you're free to do whatever you want. But if you choose to do something negative, you must be mature enough to admit to it and not rationalize the action using an excuse that you're doing it out of virtue. Better yet learn to control your anger and be civil to everyone including those who caused you anger in the first place.

You don't have to act fake, plastic or sarcastic towards people you detest. All it means is that you avoid being rude and disrespectful. Actually, it's not difficult. If you see a comment that annoyed you, don't reply immediately. Sleep on it first. The following day or days, when most of the anger would have dissipated and you're less emotional, any comment you write would then be more logical and constructive.

Peace and goodwill po sa inyong lahat. Susunod na Lunes, Pasko na.

23 Comments:

  • i like this post. thought provoking... i havent encountered any fighting bloggers, but then your post is not really exclusive to online relationships. in fact, mas magandang alalahanin ito para mga nakakasalamuha natin sa araw-araw.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:25 PM, December 18, 2006  

  • kumusta ka uro ! tama ang mga sinulat mo. sana mabasa ito ng mga "nagpapakatotoo" at maisip nila ang epekto ng kanilang "pagpapakatotoo" *^_^*. maligayang pasko sa iyo at sa iyong pamilya!

    jinggay sa dubai

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:35 PM, December 18, 2006  

  • Alam mo fafa KU may tama ka este tama ka pala hehe lalo na yung sa 2nd paragraph na nagsasaad na mas pipiliin pa ng ibang blogger na mag-retarded este retaliate kaysa palampasin na lang kung sakaling may nag-comment sa kanila na di nila nagustuhan. Pinapakita nila kung anong klase ang pagkatao nila. Alam natin na ang blog ay isang personal na espasyo sa "virtual world" na maari mong ilahad ang iyong mga idea, galit, saya etc etc ngunit dapat nating tandaan na ito rin ay bukas sa publiko na maaring magbasa at magbigay ng kanilang mga komento.
    Maganda rin naman na kung may kritiko lalo na kung ito ay makapag-bibigay ng linaw sa isang pananaw ngunit kung sakali na magiging "below the belt" ika nga ang kanyang mga sinasabi, maari nating i-moderate ang ating comment box o di kya i-delete ang kanyang sinabi o di kaya ay i-ban ang kolokoy na ito. Mayroon talagang mga tao na di iniintindi kung sila ay nakakasakit na ng damdamin ng iba. We dont need this kind of people. Wag na lang natin silang intindihin kasi sa tingin ko Kulang lang sila sa pansit este pansin, alam mo yung Kris Aquino syndrome? Di nila alam na mayroon silang sakit na ganito. Pag-pray na lang natin sila and let's hope that justice will caught up with them.

    By Blogger KaDyo, at 6:07 PM, December 18, 2006  

  • I agree with you Ka Uro. There is a very fine line between "pagpapakatotoo" at pagiging "bastos". Hindi kailangang maging bastos (rude) para magpakatotoo. It's a lousy excuse.

    Gayun pa man, nais sana kitang batiin, sampu ng iyong pamilya, ng MALIGAYANG PASKO AT MANIGONG BAGONG TAON!!!

    By Blogger Rhada, at 6:47 PM, December 18, 2006  

  • sapol na sapol mo na naman ka uro! ang dami ko talagang natututunan dito... thanks sobra!

    pasko na nga, kaya.... let there be peace on earth na!! hehehe! Merry Christmas po!

    By Blogger rHo, at 7:55 AM, December 19, 2006  

  • tama ka KU, all they're using is straw man justification. what happened to ethics and delikadesa? siguro kulang lang sa pansin. merry christmas!!! - KE

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:47 AM, December 20, 2006  

  • im back and i like this post!

    ika nga ni mang kd, me tama ka sa sinasabi mo. Dati, yan ang palusot ko, "nagpapakatotoo lang" pero dahil nagma-matured na "daw" ako, mas pinipili ko ang manahimik nalang!

    wala naman mangyayari kung sasakyan mo pa ang pag-iingay! d ba?

    Happy christmas senyo jan!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:06 PM, December 21, 2006  

  • people love to make excuses just to prove themselves that they are right. at yung 'pagpapakatotoo' ay isang excuse nila para maging bastos. masakit ang katotohanan, pero di naman na nila kailangang ipagdiinan pa.

    By Anonymous billycoy, at 8:03 PM, December 21, 2006  

  • Your right KaUro, galing mo talaga. People tend to explode when touched by a remarkable hands or mouth and this explosion truly affects all negatively. We need a virtue of self control to prevent that. God Bless, Dboy

    By Anonymous Dboy, at 10:07 PM, December 21, 2006  

  • swak na swak KU! mas malalim ang taga ng salitang binitiwan ng matalim na dila kaya dapat konting pasensya at hinahon bago magsalita.

    By Blogger katrina, at 8:39 AM, December 22, 2006  

  • totoo ang mga sinabi mo kuya...di na kailangang magpakatotoo pa kung lahat naman ay nakukuha sa good approach...

    By Blogger idealpinkrose, at 12:21 PM, December 22, 2006  

  • What a nice post and I agree with you.
    Merry Christmas!!

    By Blogger Luchie, at 2:34 PM, December 22, 2006  

  • TUMPAK!!! They're faking it! lumalabas tlga ang masamang ugali nila! nyahahah!

    By Blogger tutubing_karayom, at 5:01 PM, December 22, 2006  

  • Very nice post KU and you said it well...Mahirap pag ang pride ang pinaiiral walang magpakumbaba..(hirap naman nitong tagalog)
    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all!

    By Anonymous Agring, at 7:11 PM, December 23, 2006  

  • Hello,

    I'm a fan ^_^
    Sa tingin ko ang problema ay mas madaming batang nakatira online. At kung hindi man ganon, madaming immature na tao. Just my two cents. Ilang oras na lang... Merry Christmas!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:16 PM, December 24, 2006  

  • Hello everyone, greeting you a good day. Sa aking palagay eto lang ang masasabi ko, saang lupalop ka man ng mundo naroroon ngayon.

    "Kahit na anong mangyari ang pag-ibig sana ay mag-hari sapat ng si hesus ang kasama mo tuloy na tuloy parin ang pasko".

    Merry Christmas everyone....

    By Blogger gelo, at 5:56 PM, December 24, 2006  

  • ... true indeed KU ^_^

    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year sa buong family mo...

    Godbless!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:32 PM, December 24, 2006  

  • Good suggestions Ka Uro..

    Merry Christmas to you and your family.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:01 PM, December 24, 2006  

  • Merry Christmas po, Ka Uro- Pinagpapawisan ba kayo dian? Medyo ok lang dito, maaligamgam 24C, humidity is 64% / - for tomorrow it will be raining- accdg to the weatherman on TV.
    I wish you and your family and loved ones a very wonderful holiday and may the new year be full of good health, abundance, peace and happiness.

    By Blogger VICKY, at 10:51 PM, December 24, 2006  

  • Merry Christmas!

    By Anonymous Patrice, at 11:40 AM, December 25, 2006  

  • Kung pikon ka at kakapiranggot ang pasensya wag ka na lang mag blog o kaya tanggalan mo ng comment box yung blog mo or wag ka na lang mag-ikot para di ka na nila puntahan or better itago mo yung blog mo...hahaha!

    Merry Christmas KU!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:32 PM, December 25, 2006  

  • Tama ka Ka Uro. You do not have to be rude. Just control the anger and keep quiet. Don't pretend to be nicey nicey either or as if nothing happened, plastic din yan. Be civil and be silent. Silence is best.

    By Anonymous banjan, at 8:34 PM, December 25, 2006  

  • very well said, or well written!

    Happy New Year!!!

    By Anonymous JO, at 9:57 AM, December 28, 2006  

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