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Monday, October 31, 2005

Responding to harsh comments

How would you respond if someone leaves you the following comment?

" ...parang hindi ka nakatira sa Third World. ...parang novelty sa iyo na mahirap pala ang buhay, ganon pala ang pagtitipid... - not eating out after work, reserving a weekly allowance etc etc. parang ang hirap para sa iyo.

...maybe you mean well when you write, but for many of us who have grown up with this way of life and have endured tragedies brought about by lack of funds, all i can say is - you damn well have nothing to complain about. you don't know anything about poverty or budget

...try selling one of your kidneys just so you can pay for your daughter's chemotherapy. after that, see if you can still complain about not being able to eat out ..."

The above are excerpts from actual comments received by a fellow blogger from an irate commenter. Click here to read the entire post of this fellow blogger, the entire comments from the angry commenter and how the blogger responded.

How one responds to negative comments normally determines what happens next. Either a word war follows or the issue is settled amicably. Many times we let our emotions take control and end up doing stupid things we regret later. We have to remember that we can always control the words we use (most especially true in blogging).

"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you." - Brain Tracy

14 Comments:

  • oh well for me, I will only listen and I don't argue with the small minds. Ignore it!

    By Blogger Raquel, at 12:00 AM, November 01, 2005  

  • ck Sabi nga ni Pareng Norman Paele "The cyclone derives its powers from a calm center. So does a person."
    At yan ang ipinakita ni fellow blogger natin na ito di ba fafa KU, kaya shoes off este hats off ako sa kanya for showing the right moves in times of adversity.
    Salamat sa pag post nyo ni mr peacekeeper nito =)

    By Blogger KaDyo, at 12:02 AM, November 01, 2005  

  • that was a good exchange! they knew how to listen to each other rather than bark to each other...everybody's entitled to his own opinion, right? and that opinion often is influenced by our own experiences...kudos to sassafras and the anonymous commenter!

    By Blogger Analyse, at 12:25 AM, November 01, 2005  

  • hi ka uro "treats" na lang mamaya picture picture ako ng mga batang cute :)

    btw, alam mo ako naman immune na sa mga "anonymous" dahil na rin siguro nasanay na ako ...syempre may na meet na rin ako na di magandang mag comment pero "ayos" lang 'yon para sa'kin at di ako masyadong emosyonal kung may nasabi man na di maganda at di ako apektado once na nagpa apektado ka sa mga negatibong bagay makukuha ka niyan sa isang aspeto nang pakikipagtalo o di kaya'y pagkainis.

    pinakamabisa pa rin ang "gamotin" ang sarili sa mapayapang paraan, sa tunay na buhay uugatin tayo sa mundo ng internet "kung" pati ang di magandang pagsagot sa isang komentaryo ay pru-prublemahan kahit natutulog :)

    By Blogger LadyWhiteSpirit, at 3:39 AM, November 01, 2005  

  • As I said in my comment in VFS, if you are "balat sibuyas" please close your comment box.

    Internet is a free and real world. Do not expect that everyone shares your thoughts and opinions. Iba ibang people, just like in the usual neighboorhood.

    By Anonymous myepinoy, at 1:42 PM, November 01, 2005  

  • guten morgen (good morning)!

    bago lang ito... nag-comment ako kagabi sa blog ng isa kong fren, nang binalikan ko ngayon, may anonymous na pinagmumura lahat ang mga nandoon. grabe! hindi ko pa bahay iyon pero ang tindi ng dating, nakakaapekto talaga. Buti sana kung inilagay niya ang pangalan niya para naman matantiya kung papatulan ba o hindi.

    By Blogger racky, at 8:32 PM, November 01, 2005  

  • Sangkatutak na mura ang inabot ko pero ignore ko na lang. If I will retort back, it will be endless

    By Blogger darlene, at 12:02 AM, November 02, 2005  

  • i commented there in VFS, hehehe...

    maiba po kao fafa, nagemail po ako sau, hope nabasa nyo na..tyyy

    -DOPS
    yeyfncf

    By Blogger DOPS, at 4:25 AM, November 02, 2005  

  • walang pagkakaiba sa cb radio noon. at first masaya. then dumami at nagkagrupo-grupo. then gumulo. at mayroong iba na ang hobby ay mang-gulo lang. okay lang, hindi dapat pansinin at personalin. parang cycle ng pamilya ba, pag lumalaki na. also, iba-iba talaga opinion ng mga tao. i think respeto lang sa isa't isa ang kailangan. cheers KU!

    By Anonymous jun (fyi:), at 6:07 AM, November 02, 2005  

  • You're right KU! We don't let our emotions gets the better of ourselves....

    Cheers!

    By Blogger Flex J!, at 6:04 PM, November 02, 2005  

  • Bilib ako sa calmness ni Sassymoon. It's a very difficult situation but she managed it well. Magandang ehemplo to.

    By Blogger jinkee, at 7:08 PM, November 02, 2005  

  • I followed the link....gravecious, naaliw ako sa kinalabasan ng palitan ng kuro-kuro. Bilib ako!

    By Blogger Rhada, at 7:14 PM, November 02, 2005  

  • depende siguro sa mood ng blogger yan... kung kagagaling ko lang magsimba and i saw a nasty comment on my blog... siguro, palalampasin ko na lang yan... pero kung kakasabon lang sa akin ni boss... baka mabaling yung galit ko sa commenter... we are all humans and we can't expect everyone to be holy under such situation. hindi lahat, kayang bumato ng tinapay kapag binato ng bato... majority will fight back, it's human nature.

    By Blogger kukote, at 7:45 PM, November 02, 2005  

  • Hi KU,

    Frankly speaking, I'm not as nice as Sassymoon when faced with such a situation. True that everytime we (I) use our (my) emotions as a basis for our actions, it is most likely that we screw up.

    Kanina lang sa Gym KU, muntik na ako mapaaway dahil sa isang tao na masama magsalita. Sabihan ba naman ako ng... Magbigay ka nga ng daanan! pare-pareho lang tayo nagbabayad dito! Nakapag pigil lang ako kanina at naisip na mas abnoy ako kung papatulan ko ang isang may topak.

    But then, asar talaga ako kanina. At kung hinamon nya ako... Bibigyan ko sya ng hindi nya malilimutan.

    We have different levels of thinking, different levels of emotional intelligence. If we feel we are on the upper part of the scale, there is no harm stepping down a few steps to settle our differences.

    Best Regards po=),
    -Jack

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:04 PM, November 02, 2005  

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