Do you fill up your drinks when you leave Burger King?
Normal sa Pinoy ang ayaw malamangan. Gusto natin tayo ang nakakalamang. I’ve seen this bahavior a lot of times among our kababayans. A Pinoy goes in to Burger King to buy a meal. At BK, the softdrinks are "bottomless" or one to sawa. The Pinoy will drink as much as he could while inside the store. Kahit sumakit pa ang tiyan.. Then on the way out, fill-up pa uli ang baso. Hindi palulugi.
The same with smorgasbord restaurants. Pinoys will try to get all the choice food on their plates, kahit na maubusan ang iba at kahit na pipilitin lang para ubusin.
Sa supermarket, half a cabbage is 75 cents, one whole is $1. A European caucasian person will get only half. Their thinking is they’ll waste food if all they need is half. A Pinoy will buy the one whole cabbage. A Pinoy’s thinking is that $1 for one whole is cheaper than 75 cents for half, regardless of whether he needs the whole cabbage or not. Ayaw natin ang ma-agrabiyado tayo. Makasarili tayo. Selfish. Ako muna bago ang iba. We fail to look at the bigger picture outside of ourselves.
Marami pang ibang ehemplo. ("Ehemplo", para akong titser nito a). Sa pag-dra-drive, siguro kaya chaotic ang traffic situation sa atin, isa nang dahilan ang ayaw natin ang nalalamangan. Kapag umuuwi tayo ng bansa, madalas ipinagmamalaki natin na hindi tayo nahirapan sa Customs kasi nag-lagay tayo. Actually, ipinagyayabang natin dito na naisahan natin ang ibang mga pasahero na hindi marunong maglagay.
I am not going to attempt to explain the Filipino psyche as far as this pag-uugali is concerned. Any explanation is just an excuse. And any excuse becomes a reason to do nothing. All I wish is for us to realize one simple character fault and with the knowledge consciously modify our behavior.
My wish is that Filipinos learn to be less selfish. Tigilan natin ang manlamang. Let's not think that because we do not acquire the most out of a given situation or transaction na tayo ay nalalamangan. Instead, let’s think that by being fair, we in fact are doing something good to others. And what’s good for others will ultimately also be good for oneself.