Love and Hate

It is said “The opposite of love is not hate: it's indifference” and “It’s better to be hated than ignored”. I do believe in these sayings because I do believe it is easier to transform hate into love, but not so with indifference.

So when someone tells you “I hate you”, be grateful because he/she has bothered to hate you. He/She has put time and energy to express an emotion towards you. With their attention you now have a chance to turn hate into love. On the otherhand people who are indifferent towards you, don’t care about you. To them you are invisible. Without their attention, there is no chance to get their affection. It's as simple as that.

Hindi ba nakapagtataka na kung minsan ang nakakatuluyan ng isang tao, yun pang hate-na-hate nila nung high school o college? Sa mag-syota o mag-asawa, there are times na nagkakaaway kayo, di ba? During those times you feel na galit na galit kayo sa isa't isa. May ilang magkakaibigan na ang friendship nila started from a quarrel. Ang magkakapatid, ina o ama at anak nagtatampuhan yan at kung minsan hindi nag-uusap ng matagal. Tapos pag namatay o nawala ang magulang o anak, magsisisi ang kabila and only then they realize their pettiness and the fact that they really didn't hate each other. If you think about it, hate in these contexts is really a result of the need for love. You hate someone because they failed to manifest positive feelings towards you. In other words you hate them for not loving you. And this is not too bad because it only takes one party to stop hating and soon both starts loving.

Which is why when I know a person hates me and provided I don't feel the same way, I try to reciprocate with kindness and pray for their love. If this doesn't work I simply hope for them to continue hating me. That I can accept, but ignore me, I beg them, please not.