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Friday, October 13, 2006

Afraid of Heights

There is a quote that says “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you will land among the stars.”

For some people, this way of thinking works. They prefer to aim high. Have grand objectives. Nothing wrong with that. In fact most of those who do so are probably high achievers in their fields.

But not me. I prefer modest goals. Kasi kapag masyadong mataas, there is undue pressure because of the greater likelihood of failing. And failures lead to unhappines. And life is too short to be unhappy, even for a day.

One person’s goal might be to save a million bucks by age 50. Others, like me are content to save a few bucks every month. The main difference I could see is that the former is more likely to be disappointed if the money falls short of a million by age 50. What’s worse, during the period leading to age 50 the person might have been too obsessed towards achieving the goal, that he/she becomes miserable and stressed during that time.

That’s what happens when you’re too focused on the destination. You fail to see the beautiful scenery.

Like for example nung una akong nakipag-sapalaran sa Tate nung 90’s simple lang ang pangarap ko. Hindi ko pinangarap ang magkaroon ng mamahaling sports car o ang maging sikat na action star sa Hollywood. Dahil nasa IT ako at bihira pa ang may PC noong mga panahong iyon, masaya na ako kung makabili ng sariling PC. Isang no brand na computer 486, 66Mhz, 640KB memory, 20MB hard drive ang nabili ko. Laking tuwa ko na noon. Sa sarili ko kahit pauwiin na ako ni Uncle Sam, masaya na ako dahil may maiuuwi akong pyuter.

I’m not saying that my approach to setting personal goals is superior. In fact I’m sure many will criticize it as one that results in mediocrity. I don’t disagree. But I’m too old to change mindsets now. I’m content to do it “one step at a time” (credits to Kadyo). And I prefer to enjoy every step of the way by achieving small but many victories. Rather than big but few ones. Coz there’s truth in the saying the higher the leap, the harder the fall”. Yet it’s also true “the harder the fall, the higher the bounce”. Maybe that’s why I don't like heights and I prefer just to roll.


23 Comments:

  • ka uro good luck po pala..nominated pala kayo sa philippine web awards! ;)

    By Anonymous sarubesan, at 5:48 PM, October 13, 2006  

  • agree ako sa iyo ka uro. we should set realistic goals to achieve it, hindi yung masyadong matayog. but it's good to dream big things just by leaving it as a dream. kasi marami dyan puro pangarap lang, walang aksyon, puro procastination lang... parang ako yata yun, haha.

    i take things slowly to move upward, hindi rin ganun kadali maachieve ang mga goals natin. it takes a lot of drops of sweat and blood.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:21 PM, October 13, 2006  

  • I totally agree with you. Why stress ourselves? We should all enjoy our lives with no worries.

    Kami naman ng asawa ko, we set goals good for the next 2-5 years lang, pag na achieve then set another set of goals.

    Happy weekend!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:58 AM, October 14, 2006  

  • you're right ka uro! dahan-dahan pero sigurado naman db?! in d end naman, hindi na importante kung huli ka ba or wat.. basta, na-experience mo ang tuwa at lungkot papunta sa tugatog ng tagumpay! hehehe...

    By Blogger rHo, at 4:11 AM, October 14, 2006  

  • Magandang araw sa inyong lahat at kay ka.uro, napa-comment na naman ako. Sa aking opinion lahat naman yata tayo may kanya-kanyang project sa ating buhay doon nakakaroon ng derection ang ating buhay kasi nagiging aggresibo tayo to earn more money at the same time naeenjoy natin yong pinagkitaan natin. Hindi masama to think BIG basta legal lahat ang ginagawa mo wala kang nasasagasaan cguro its normal to fall down pero para sa akin positive side ang approach ko dito. Sabi nga eh ang taong aggresibo yon ang nagtatagumpay...

    By Blogger gelo, at 8:23 PM, October 14, 2006  

  • Hi Ka uro, bago lang ako dito pero I've been reading your blog since last year, pwede ho ba maitanong kung anong field kayo sa IT, ano ho ba language ang gamit nyo bilang isang programmer, maraming Salamat

    By Blogger neo, at 10:42 PM, October 14, 2006  

  • We shoot for the moon but there are definitely stars we can always land on. Ibig sabihin, there are a lot of chances in life, a lot of dreams we can fulfill, we just have to choose which one we want and strive to achieve.

    Whatever your approach is Ka Uro, you are on your way to always achieving it kasi you have the mind and the heart to do it all.

    By Anonymous Leah, at 4:06 AM, October 15, 2006  

  • ang importante ay may naiipon ka kuya kahit konti lang...

    at sabi nga nila, mas masarap ang mabuhay ng simple lang...

    By Blogger idealpinkrose, at 5:55 AM, October 15, 2006  

  • Hi,, KU:

    I second to that... the higher our expectations, when we fail, we fall not among with the stars and we could be alone all the way down; what's worse? It'll be a little while before we recover, our failure will bounce more than twice the time we spent the effort of setting off. It's really good to come to our senses constantly and know how we can put both feet on the ground in case we ourselves or some others who aimed high the same goal in life is about to make a free fall so we can either make a stand for loss of momentum or cussion them to their ultimate failures in life - and that's not wanting to try again. :-D By the way, is NZ still a good place to raise a family? I'm in Dubai preparing and kept dreaming of my three girls grow up there also. More power... keep it coming!

    By Blogger JAMES, at 7:19 PM, October 15, 2006  

  • Same here KU, I don't expect too much. Kaya madali akong ma satisfy sa mga simpleng bagay.

    By Anonymous ann, at 7:22 PM, October 15, 2006  

  • Well to each his own, sabi nga. Wala namang guarantee ang buhay para sa lahat so we are all free to try out what works for us.

    Ngayon papalapit na ang araw ng panibagong challenge para sa akin kasi lilipat na ako ng NZ from Dubai. Goal ko ang makapag settle in 6 months and hopefully ma-achieve ko ang aking unang salary increment para mailipat ko na family ko sa NZ.

    By Anonymous AJDubai, at 10:50 PM, October 15, 2006  

  • Ako naman I always aim high sa lahat ng mga endeavours ko pero pag alam kong imposibleng abutin yong binabalak kong gawin hindi ko na pinipilit, dahil baka maging sourse pa ng frustrations ko pag hindi ko na-abot yon. nice post BTW ka -uro. :)

    By Anonymous jlois, at 11:07 PM, October 15, 2006  

  • thanks for all the nice comments everyone. goes to show na iba-iba ang diskarte natin sa buhay. ang importante yung sinabi ni gelo na wala tayong nasasagasaan.

    sarubesan,
    oo ni-nominate ako nung isa kong kamag-anak. heheh

    neo,
    applications developer ako. Powerbuilder, Oracle at SQL ang gamit namin. naghahanap nga ng lilipatan. gusto ko sana .Net


    james,
    para sa akin, yes, NZ is the ideal place to raise a family.

    ajDubai,
    good luck sa iyo. hope to see you soon in auckland

    By Blogger Ka Uro, at 11:38 AM, October 16, 2006  

  • thanks Ka Uro, you must be very good na using those programs like you said youve been in the IT industry for so long, just wanna ask kung in demand ho ba dyan ang java developer or flash developer, right now kasi I've been using flash for almost 8years na and i'm studying java now para madagdagan naman kaalaman ko,

    By Blogger neo, at 4:44 PM, October 16, 2006  

  • hi KU! i really like this entry because you were able to verbalize one of my personal tenets. yes, some may say that it's a recipe for underachievers (and it may very well be) but the world is complicated enough and we don't need to be so hard on ourselves, as long as we also don't deceive ourselves. kahit modest goal ang mahalaga naman pinagtrabahuhan iyon at pinag-isipan kung paano makakamit. minsan kasi nalulula o nalulunod tayo sa taas ng pangarap- nagiging all or nothing ang approach.

    By Blogger Sassafras, at 7:11 PM, October 16, 2006  

  • Just like you Ka Uro, hindi din ako masyado mataas mangarap. Medya-medya lang. Mababaw lang ang kaligayahan, simplistic, at realistic. It's where I find peace kasi.

    btw, congrats on your nomination!

    By Blogger Rhada, at 7:20 PM, October 16, 2006  

  • Hi! to all again, atras kayong lahat, abante ako!!! hehehehe joke lang po(babad lang sa TFC). kidding aside life is too short di ba kaya think big, aim high at gamitin mo ang buhay na meron ka para ang makinabang ng lahat ng pinagpaguran mo ay ikaw at ang mga mahal mo sa buhay,nam-namin nyo ang tagumpay na naabot nyo basta marangal at legal saludo ako sa inyo.... kaya simulan nyo na...

    By Blogger gelo, at 8:25 PM, October 16, 2006  

  • "To aim high" is really subjective as it depends on the person's objectives in mind. So, this does not necessarily mean that it is not possible to achieve our goals .........especially if we've set our standards on something that we believe is attainable. What is important is to be able to identify what is ideal and what is real.............also to keep an open mind to any contingencies. I believe that what matters most is the ability to try our best in anything that we do so that even in the face of failures, we can still count ourselves as victorious.

    Ps. Thanks for all the inspiring blogs KU. Your write-ups are great. Best regards to your wonderful family.

    By Anonymous Mystica, at 9:39 PM, October 16, 2006  

  • being an inhinyero like you, i agree with the mindset. we always take projects which are feasible, right? so ganun din ako sa buhay ko. why should i stress myself to attain an impossible dream di ba..

    By Blogger Analyse, at 6:56 AM, October 17, 2006  

  • Agree ako sayo ka Ka Uro, specially the qoute "one step at a time". ganyan ang mga kiwi, at very young age meron na silang medium and long term plan for their life.. God Bless to you Ka Uro and your family..

    By Anonymous dboy, at 8:53 AM, October 17, 2006  

  • neo,
    sawa na rin ako sa PowerBuilder kaya gusto ko nang lumipat. very in-demand ang java. mag-aral ka rin ng SQL kasi kailangan yon lalo na sa mga business applications. not sure about flash.

    sass,
    tulad mo ayoko kasi ng complicated at hate ko ang stress.

    rhada,
    tayo yung mga taong mababaw ang kaligayahan.kung may magbibigay sa aking ng pinaglumaan nilang SUV maligaya na ako. kahit hindi Jeep Compass ok lang. hehehe

    gelo,
    agree ako. dun lang tayo sa marangal at legal.

    Mystica,
    yun nga subjective naman ang lahat. so everyone has their own way of doing and looking at things. best regards din sa yo and your family.

    analyse,
    that's my point nga. minsan tayo rin ang nagko-cause ng stress sa sarili nating buhay by setting goals that are impractical. example: i want a brand new car this year. to attain that todo overtime tayo at double jobs pa. in the process we lose the time to relax and enjoy time with our family. but if one really think about it, kailangan nga bang bumili ng bagong sasakyan?

    dboy,
    some kiwis pag-graduate ng university may mga properties na. yung iba naman mid-20s may sarili ng negosyo o company. pero meron din naman mga kiwis na walang plano sa buhay kundi ang mag-holiday sa ibang bansa every year.

    By Blogger Ka Uro, at 9:27 AM, October 17, 2006  

  • Ako naman KU, I always go for realistic expectations. Di naman sa takot akong mag-fail, kungdi masaya ako na nagma-materialize ang plano/pangarap ko.

    Nga pala, mabilis lang ng konti yung pc ko sa bahay kesa sa computer mo noong nasa Tate ka. I have a Pentium166 :(

    By Blogger jinkee, at 3:31 PM, October 19, 2006  

  • ano nga ba ang difference ng pagbagsak mula sa isang mataas at mababa(ng) na pinanggalingan?

    mula sa isang mataas na lugar: "Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, blag!"

    mula sa isang mababang lugar:
    "Blag! Ahhhhhhhhhhh!"

    magandang araw sa iyo, KU! mustamos?

    By Anonymous bingskee, at 5:08 PM, October 22, 2006  

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