If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins - Benjamin Franklin

Note: This is my reply to Randy's email which I posted in my previous post.

Randy,

Sana maunawaan mo na magusot ang pumasok sa ugnayang iniisip mo. Ano’t anuman ang mangyari tiyak na may masasaktan. Mahal mo man siya, subali’t may asawa na siyang nagmamahal din sa kanya. Tanungin mo ang iyong sarili kung tunay na pagmamahal nga ba ang nararamdaman mo para sa kanya. Ang tunay na pagmamahal ay mapag-bigay, may pang-unawa at higit sa lahat hindi makasarili.

A story in the Bible comes to mind. May dalawang babae ang nag-aagawan sa isang sanggol. Sabi nung isa, baby niya yung sanggol. Sabi naman nung isa, kanya yon. So lumapit sila kay Haring Solomon para siya ang humatol sa kaso. Sabi ni Solomon, kumuha ng tabak at hatiin ang bata sa dalawa para ito’y paghatian. Pagkarinig nito, sabi nung tunay na ina, “Hindi ko po siya anak, ibigay niyo na lang sa kanya, huwag niyo lang patayin.”. Then Solomon knew who the real mother is because of the way she loved the baby.

Not only is this story applicable to a mother and her child. It is also applicable to a man and a woman. Like in Solomon’s story, the person with the greater love, is the one more willing to give up the child. So if you really love this woman, give her up. Stop her from being any more close to you. Put distance between you and her, for she already belongs to someone else. Making her love you the same way she loves her husband is like cutting her into two. It will destroy her and in the end neither you nor her husband gains anything from it. So don't ask her for something she can't give or for something both of you may later regret.

So my dear friend, think of what you are getting into. Love and passion can be easily confused. Raw passion is a very powerful emotion. Like rain water gone wild and uncontrolled it can turn itself into a torrent wave that wrecks havoc to eveything in its path. Please don’t let that happen. Avoid putting yourself in a situation when that could happen. Avoid being alone with her. It’s not too late yet to rectify the situation. Don’t make the situation any worse than what it already is. For once it gets to a point of no return, then it’s like a dam bursting in the open. The damage becomes permanent and disastrous to everyone.

Sometimes we think that life is cruel. Na para bang napaglalaruan tayo ng mga circumstances beyond our control and we feel powerless. But are we really? Wala ba talaga tayong magagawa sa sitwasyon? You seem like an intelligent and decent person who knows right from wrong. Just that now you’re being carried away by passion. I pray that with God’s grace you find the strength to choose the right decision.